I have recently read some of the amazing work of Rupi Kaur, ‘Milk and Honey’. I had read so many different reviews on it and I was in a book shop the other day and it was screaming at me. I had seen it before but had so many other things to read. But the other day I saw it and I had to have it. I don’t know why.
This book broke me. I cried more times than I would like to admit and I can’t blame it all on the hormones. It is such a beautiful book. One poem, in particular, made me think of my childhood. Reminded me of my dad and how he loved not only all his children but how much he dotes on my mother.
Being pregnant myself I feel it resonated even deeper than a simple memory. I read this poem over and over again, and still, it brings a tear to my eye. I recommend every woman should read this book. It is astounding on so many levels.
‘When my mother was pregnant
with her second child, I was four
I pointed at her swollen belly confused at how
my mother had gotten so big in such little time
my father scooped me up in his tree trunk arms and
This is always the number one step. Start a dialog. Now. TODAY. When you want to start trying? Any family medical history? How you want to raise your children? There are so many things that need to be discussed before bringing a child into the world. And to be honest there are so many ways to do it. Andrew and I had been discussing this for several months prior to trying. We discussed everything. When to have it, who will stay home, how we want to raise our child, finances, even throwing out a few names out there.
I can not express how important it is to talk to your other half about everything. Put it all out on the table and let it simmer. Most importantly know that having a child with someone is all about compromise. Well, Compromise and love.
Track your cycles
There are hundreds of apps out there that help with this. The average woman has a 28-da
cycle, beginning at day one of their menstruation, and finish on the day before their next period. In saying this I have a 30-day cycle. This is the first thing you should start doing as soon as you and your partner have started having the talk.
As most women know menstruation is the shedding of the uterine lining. But did you know that during the Follicularstage (fertile) your uterine lining is thickened? During this stage, it is important to support your hormone production. This means filling your diet with things like; salmon, avocado, organic coconut oils, broccoli, nuts, and seeds.Estrogen levels are high so you should have lots of energy.the time after menstruation before you are at your most
The next stage is ovulation, where your ovaries are producing eggs.Right now your estrogen will be plummeting, and so will your energy. So at the moment, you will be needing foods high in estrogen such as; beans, alfalfa sprouts, sesame seeds, and dried fruits. You will be feeling sleepy but stay up and have as much sex as possible. This is your window so have fun.
The Luteal phase is the rest of the month pretty much. This is where the uterine lining continues to thicken before shedding again. This is normally the part where you have to wait before the pee sticks come out. Normally it’s the 10-day weight after ovulation that is the hardest part when you are trying for a baby. So do anything you can to keep your mind off it. Even keep having sex. What’s the worst that can happen? You get more practice.
Know your months
Know what time of year you want to have your baby. But please remember that just because you have it all planned out doesn’t mean you will fall pregnant straight off the bat. For the lucky few it can work that way. But for the rest of us living on the planet earth just hold out. Keep trying. When it’s meant to happen it will happen.
There are so many different types prenatal Vitamins on the market nowadays it can be hard to choose the right one. What do you look for? How much of what vitamins do you need? Why do you need them? Well I, as a student nurse and woman trying to conceive, have taken it upon myself to find out. I did my research and got onto my
Vitamins as soon as I knew I wanted to have the baby talk with Andrew. The earlier you start taking your Vitamins the better for both you and the baby.
Calciumis important for helping your baby build strong bone, nerves, and muscles. It is also vital for a healthy heart, by assisting rhythm and building clotting capabilities. It also assists preventing hypertension and preeclampsia in the mummy.
Copperis an essential element for forming red blood cells. This is vital during pregnancy, especially when the blood supply begins to double. Copper also assists in mending broken tissues and helping in breaking down sugars. As a bonus, it will help mama’s hair looking radiant.
Folic Acidis one of the mostIMPORTANTvitamins you will need to take as it helps prevent Neural Tube Defects (NTD). It will also assist in the
prevention of spinal cord and brain defects in your unborn child. I can not stress the importance of starting this Vitamin ASAP. Studies found the women who start taking Folic Acid prior to conception are70% less likely to have a baby that suffers from NTD. If you are reading this now, start taking this today.
Ironis a vital element in blood (hemoglobins) production. Iron also helps
transport oxygen from your lungs to other areas of the body, including your unborn baby. Many women are diagnosed with Anemia due to and iron deficiency. Anemia can cause your baby to be born prematurely or with a low birth weight.
Vit B-6also known as pyridoxine, is vital for helping babies brain develop. Vit B-6 has also been proven to assist your unborn child in
metabolizing proteins and carbohydrates. As a bonus, Vit B-6 is also believed to assist in relieving nausea in Mummy.
Vit Cis one that we all know and hopefully, take to keep those little nasty bugs at bay. But when trying to conceive or after pregnancy, they are important in building many things for your baby; collagen, cartilage, tendons, bones and skin. it is also believed but not proven that Vit C may also assist in reducing the chances of your child being born with an impaired mental state.
Vit Dis a key element for healthy bone development. Studies have found that those who suffer from a Vit D deficiency are more likely to suffer from preeclampsia. There are also links between Vit D deficiency and gestational diabetes, premature births, and infections. So get out in the sunshine and soak up so Vit D, but not too much.
Zincis important for you babies cell growth and the production of DNA.
This is important due to the rapid cell growth that both you and the baby are going through. Zinc will also support the mother’s immune system and maintain your taste and smell senses.
Health Care Cover
Being an Australian, private health care is not overly necessary, however, it does help. Our medicare system provides us with low cost prescriptions and free public patient care in a public hospital. But if you have private health care in Australia or no matter the country you are living in, it would be a good time now to have a look and see what your plan covers. It may need updating if so do it now. Just get a better Idea of what you have, then add from there if required. If you’re not an Australian citizen or living elsewhere in the world. Find out what this next stage may cost you financially or what areas of care your private health care will cover.
When preparing to have a baby, we all want our baby to have the best, healthiest start to life. If you need to make any adjustments to your health now is the time to do it. Most GPs offer a ‘pre-conceptual‘ check up. This may also include DROPPING/GAINING any excess weight. If you have diabetes the GP can provide any information you may need to keep your BSLs in check during this time. This will be the case for any medications you are taking pre-baby making.
It is also important to make sure you are up to date with all your immunizations. When it comes to immunizations for rubella (where they inject you with the live virus) it will be safe to do this at least a month prior to conceiving. So the sooner the better. Unsure if you are up to date with your immunization? It can be as simple as a blood test. But again the sooner the better.
The dentist is also another must as many of the drugs they use when fixing you teeth may be dangerous to the baby. If you find out you are pregnant prior to a dentist check up PLEASE alert your dentist. Getting your teeth checked prior is also important as pregnancy can have a tendency to drain your calcium from your teeth.
Start saving –
I think this is a given, but kids are really expensive. And that’s just the healthy ones. Be prepared for everything. The more money you can put away now the better off you will be in the long run. I think is is fairly common sense knowledge but starting a new budget now by putting the money you will be needing for the baby will give you a better idea of just how expensive they can be. Plus when you do have kids that money can be your rainy day fund, setting up the nursery fund, family holiday fund, college fund, etc. There are 100 ways that money will come in handy in the future. So seriously just START NOW.
Spend some quality time with your significant other
When the baby gets here it will be here for at least 18 years. That’s 18 years that your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend will come second. While it is just the two of you take some time out and just enjoy each other. Some people go on a babymoon either before they start trying or before the baby gets here. That’s what our USA-radventure was for us. This is a time for you and your significant other to really bond and truly show your love and appreciation before the chaos starts. This may also be the last time you are both truly alone for a very, very long time.
This is the best part. I’m not going to lie. Don’t get too caught up in the goal focus on the here and now. Enjoy the quality time while you can.
I hope this article has helped a few of you get some plans into motion before starting to conceive. Watch this space for more my beloved readers.
Est. Nov 2013, foods from around the world. Each vendor was set up in converted shipping containers along the Hamilton Wharf. Walking into a wonderland with fairy lights to light up the night and the most wonderful smells dancing in the air.
I have wanted to go to the Eat Street Markets for a while now. Last night was my first experience. We attended the markets with my dear friend Ellyce and her boyfriend Anthony. It was magical.
We agreed upon arrival that we were going to have what we called a ‘Progressive Dinner’ as we wanted to try as much as possible. For those who are unaware, a progressive dinner where each person takes turns of choosing an item from various vendors and sharing with the group. We found this was a great way to try several different types of food rather than just having our own dinner. We also were able to try foods that we otherwise never would have.
Chicken sliders – 3/5
Lamb sliders – 4.5/5
Honey Puff King
Nutella Honey Puff – 4.5/5
Jake & Elle’s Kitchen
Chocolate Cannoli – 3/5
Vanilla cannoli – 3/5
Chicken Dumplings – 4/5
The Doughnut Bar
Doughnut-Cone – 3/5 (the cone had just a bit too much sugar on them)
Ferrero Ice Cream – 5/5
Teriyaki chicken skewers – 3/5
Ginger beer – 5/5
Passion fruit and Coconut – 3.5/5
Catch & Kiss
BBQ Moreton Bay Bug – 4.5/5
Chips – 3/5
Sothern Style Chicken Wings – 3/5
The food was amazing and the company was even better. This may become a monthly outing for Andrew and myself. Such a great atmosphere (even with so many people) and the food, AMAZING.
Thirteen years ago I dropped out of high school. I was failing, being bullied and to be honest, it wasn’t what I wanted for my life. So luckily my parents supported me as long as I had a job they didn’t mind.
So off to TAFE I went to get my Certificate III in Mechanics. But that didn’t work either. After a year in I had to get out. It too wasn’t what I wanted.
For the next 10 years, I had a bunch of dead end jobs.
Mobile-phone technician. (5 years)
Cleaner. (2 years)
Kitchen Hand. (4 years)
It was during the last three years working as a kitchen hand in an aged care facility that I met this amazing girl who changed my life. She made me believe that I could do more with my life. She made me believe that I had the brains to go back to school and become a nurse.
I had to start with a bridging course which I then completed before I even told my parents that I had decided to go to University. I was terrified that I wouldn’t do well. That I’d fail at that like I had so many things over the years.
When I finally told my parents they were both speechless. They couldn’t believe that their only child to not graduate High School was now a University student studying to be a Nurse. I remember my mum getting very emotional when I told her. It was also the first time I have ever seen my dad speechless.
At the start of each semester I kept hearing in my head ‘you will never make it to the end of this semester. You will fail again‘. Each semester I proved the voice wrong. The thing that had me dumbstruck was the fact that I wasn’t just passing I was excelling. I may not be a High Distinction student but I was up there.
With each semester the voice got dimmer and dimmer. I started hearing a new voice. Telling me that all I had to do was ‘make it through to the end of the semester. Just 13 more weeks‘.
I’m in my final semester at USC and I can hear the negative voice no longer. I know I can do this. I have made it through the hardest parts of this degree. I know I can make it. Thirteen more weeks and an eight-week internship in a hospital and I will be qualified.
Not bad for a High School drop out.
I have had so many wonderful people who have supported me along the way and so many people who have inspired me to keep going. My wonderful partner has been my guiding light. When I have my semesterly break down (it happens between week 5 and 6) he has scooped me up off the bathroom floor and told me that I can do it. Not really told me but demanded it from me. He too is a student and knows the stress of University but he also knows me. He knew I could do it. He had faith in me when I had no faith.
I have these amazing people in my life but the person I must thank most is my amazing friend Samantha who once said to me ‘hey I’m thinking of going to uni come with me and let’s be better‘. She was right. We are better, Stronger for doing this. Being a mature aged student is hard but nowhere near as hard as it would be to have my future children grow up without the strong, educated woman I have now become. All due to a conversation held in a dining room three years ago.
The one phrase that I have always loved but never been able to use. At least not without sounding like a complete idiot. Unlike the magnificent Constant “Connie” Britton.
This woman can do it all. She can act, sing, produce, be a single parent to an adorable adopted son and be a humanitarian. And that hair! Dear lord, I love her hair.
Everything from her roles in; Friday Night Lights, American Horror Story, Spin City, I am a big admirer of much of her work but none as much as her portrayal of the talented country singer, Rayna Jaymes. A dear friend of mine shares my passion for Connie Britton and sent me this wonderful video link.
I don’t classify myself a feminist, more of an equalist for all of humanity but I love the satirical nature of this video. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
I have started blogs before. This is where I plan on getting serious about my blogging.
This will not be a mommy blog! (I don’t have kids yet)
This will notbe a crafting blog! (Even if I am an avid crafter)
This will notbe a travel blog! (I don’t get enough time to travel this beautiful world)
It’s time to expand past these labels. This will be my blog. This will be my experiences of some of the above and more.
My name is Jennifer R. I am a wonderfully blessed woman who has a wonderful boyfriend who is the light of my life and has supported me for a wonderful 4 years. We have a beautiful fur-child, Viva who is a ball of energy and always needs to be the center of attention. Even when I decided to go back to school in my mid-20’s to get my nursing registration he supported me 100%.
I will say it again:
Two years ago Andrew and I use to live the FIFO (Fly In Fly Out) lifestyle. That was until Andrew busted his knee while at work. After having so many close calls and serious injuries before the age of 30 he decided to call it quits and go back to university himself to study IT. We are working towards a future where we can both support our family from home.
We are both blessed to have amazingly supportive families who have guided us both to make good choices with our lives and have raised us both the be strong and loving.
As I graduate in the upcoming months the next few months of blogs will be entertaining and full of so much joy and stress.